Are you thinking about dumping your boyfriend but don’t know how to proceed without breaking his heart? If he’s a really nice fellow it can be hard breaking up but this article is just what you need to help you. It will show you how to break up with your boyfriend the kindest way.
For a start, you should pave the way for the break up by giving him subtle hints about the way you feel ahead of time. Don’t just tell him all of a sudden by saying something like “it’s over”. You have to take it nice and steady.
Begin by asking him questions such as “Do you still want to go out with me?” and “Do you fancy other girls?” Hint to him that there are plenty of other girls who would jump at the chance to date him even if you are no longer around.
Drop some hints when girls flirt with him.
If you know a girl who seems to like him a lot, drop a subtle hint about her. He will be flattered. Tell him that he’s the kind of guy that any girl would like to go out with. What you are really doing is conditioning him for life after you break up. It won’t be so difficult for him if he thinks that there are some girls out there for him.
Where and When Should You Tell Him?
One of the most important things in how to break up with your boyfriend is figuring out the right time and location to tell him. Whatever you do, make certain you pick a sensible place to do it. Can you imagine telling him you want to break up when he is driving his car? Or doing something dangerous?? The shock of it might seriously distract him!
You also have to think about what kind of person he is when you decide where to end your relationship. For instance, do you want to tell him in a public or private place? If he’s the sensitive type and easily upset, a private place may be more suitable to avoid embarrassing him.
However, if he’s the strong-minded type, telling him in a public place may make him think twice about making a scene. A location where plenty of people are around and where tears or scenes would be out of place may be your best option.
If you decide to tell him you want to end your relationship, in private, at his place or yours, think carefully about which one would be best. If you break it to him at his place, you should be able to leave when you’ve told him – unless he has an unpredictable personality. In that situation, make sure you are not completely alone when you tell him as he could do something silly.
If you break up at your place, it may be difficult to get him to go without an argument so it’s a sensible idea to have someone close to hand to give moral support to you.
Only you know your boyfriend well enough to ascertain which is the best time and place to tell him so make your decision accordingly.
Sever All Ties After A Break Up
Be prepared to give him back all of his stuff and ask him to return your things also. This is a clear sign that your relationship is really is over.
Once you have broken up with your boyfriend keep your distance for a while to allow the situation to calm down. Your relationship is finished, so don’t call him, text him, or make any attempt to run into him. And, don’t accept his phone calls or text messages either. Make it absolutely clear to your ex that you want a cooling-off period before you can talk as friends again.
Make sure he knows you mean it
Sadly, no matter how hard you try to spare his feelings, a boyfriend who still wants you might not take the break up easily. You have got to make him realize that you have thought long and hard about leaving him. He has to realize that this is what you really want to do, and that there is no going back on your decision.
Don’t be moved by his tears and take him back if you don’t really want to. You have to leave him if the relationship is not working out for you. You must be strong.
Breaking up with someone is never easy but that’s how to break up with your boyfriend.